Gary Pinkel is the head football coach at the University of Missouri.

In the summer of 2013 he was in a pickle (play on words intended). He hadn’t performed for the University as they had hoped, and he was facing termination if he didn’t turn his program around in the fall season.

He had been building this program over the past few years, but hadn’t seen the performance results he hoped, and the University intended.

Little did he know that later in the fall Michael Sam would gather a group of players and coaches and share that he is gay.Now Mr. Pinkel had a decision to make – how would he lead his team?

The truth is that Gary Pinkel had already created a path of leadership that allowed his program more than 5 months between Mr. Sam’s sharing with his team and the publicity that ensued prior to the NFL draft. How we all crave the spacing between a personal announcement and the telephone game that spreads our sharing across our lives!

Pinkel’s strategy in the program was to create avenues for players to know each other beyond the field. He set forth team meetings, like the one in which Sam formally announced being gay, as part of a this strategy. These smaller group meetings featured players sharing deeper details about themselves, which created the trusting environment where vulnerability was welcomed. Pinkel didn’t participate in the groups – he set forth the structure and let the informality of the group develop the trust to lead the team. Pinkel set out to build a comfortable and relaxed program – – intending to keep his job by creating an environment of trust – in him and each other. And, with the additional pressure of Sam’s announcement, the culture Pinkel created responded with a magical season and an NFL-bound gay athlete.

I’m reminded of how law firm leaders gather to report on the finances of their firm. They gather to make decisions about the direction of the firm. How often do they gather to simply share and connect? To dig deeper into the complexities of their practice and how they each impact each other? And, equally important, how often does the management team have lunch together with the only agenda item to deepen relationships and understanding of the cross-functional aspects of their overall goal of managing the firm?

This deeper relationship is trust. It opens the door to vulnerability and shared experiences. Then when your firm is faced with adversity, you can make better decisions in addressing it. Most reactions are to tighten control. If Pinkel had tightened control of his team, would there have been 5 months of silence before the press was informed? How can trust develop when you tighten your grip?

Consider building trust through strategic structures and development of solid relationships that build levels of leadership in your organization. What if you adopted a Pinkel approach? Then when a Sam shows up, you’ll be prepared for any controversy.